Life beyond the feed
In today’s digital age, social media has blurred the lines between reality and illusion. While it does allow us to share about ourselves and connect with anyone in the world, it also tempts us to present only the brightest and most “perfect” fragments of our lives. This article explores how curated feeds, validation-seeking behavior, and the pressure to present a perfect life online shape our perception of ourselves and others.
Research shows that social media’s impact on young
people is increasingly marked by anxiety, stress and diminished self-worth.
Studies suggest that a large proportion of users check their social media
accounts first thing in the morning, yet most of them present a persona that is
strikingly different from their offline identities. The constant performance to
seem ‘cool’ or ‘perfect’ creates a psychological burden, leading to emotional
strain, reduced self-worth, and a growing disconnect between one’s online
identity and real self.
For the youth, social media is a critical place
for social interactions, which makes them vulnerable to feelings of exclusion
or FOMO.
The fear of missing out triggers a persistent
sense of anxiety in an individual when they come in contact with others having
more rewarding experiences. This can lead to -
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Overcommitment: Individuals may agree to experiences that they are uncomfortable with
simply to avoid missing out.
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Increased risk-taking: Teens, in particular, may fall victim to peer pressure and engage in
activities like binge-drinking or substance abuse.
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Performative identity: All of the symptoms are combined with the urge to post their ‘activities’
online to form a persona of someone that may seem “cool”.
Chronic FOMO is linked to increased
psychological pressure and depression. Even if the activities are not outright
dangerous to the wellbeing of an individual, FOMO can create emotional distress
and internal conflict. The link between FOMO and the act of posting activities
online is a self-reinforcing cycle where the documentation of an experience
often replaces the actual living of it. This behaviour is driven by the
psychological need for validation and the belief that an experience somehow
holds less value if it isn't shared.
Influencer culture.
Influencer culture thrives on filters and photo
editing, creating beauty standards that are hardly ideal or achievable in real
life. Constant exposure to these ‘perfect’ images can distort how viewers
perceive their physical selves. This can lead to insecurity, or in severe cases,
symptoms of body dysmorphia. Even though some influencers do present their
authentic life online, algorithms often promote content that is far from
authentic. Beauty standards are evolving every second, and influencers are the
center of this loop.
However, many influencers rely on cosmetic
procedures, editing tools, and filters to maintain a certain image. The images
of these influencers that are being presented online can lead to-
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Unrealistic standards: Perfectly curated pictures through editing and
filters can set unachievable beauty targets in the community.
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Body dissatisfaction: Constant exposure to perfected images can
distort self-perception which can lead to issues regarding body image.
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Validation addiction: The chase for likes, comments and followers can lead to dependence on
external approval for happiness or a “people pleasing” attitude in general.
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Commercialization of
identity: Commitment to brands because of sponsorships
can lead to false advertisement and potential financial problems among the
viewers.
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Pressure to conform: Young people may feel compelled to imitate influencer lifestyles, trends
or aesthetics to fit in.
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Distorted
relationships: Chronically online people may have problems
having genuine connection, leaving interactions shallow or transactional.
Positive impacts of social
media.
When users move away from curated
"performance," social media can be a powerful venue for personal growth.
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New ways to learn: Social networks make it easier for the general public to connect and
learn in new ways, often serving as a primary source for breaking news and
social updates.
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Meaningful engagement: When users move from mindless scrolling to meaningful engagement (such as
leaving positive comments and having genuine conversations), social media acts
as a support system for varying communities.
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Discovery: The algorithm provides the major advantage of discovering new interests
and information that a user might not have encountered otherwise.
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Community building: Individuals can find engagement and connect with like-minded people
across the world.
Precautions to take when using
social media.
To use social media more mindfully, the
following practices can help:
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Control your
consumption of social media by avoiding doomscrolling to prevent mental and
physical straining.
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Focus on your personal
values and achievements that are independent of external validation like likes,
comments, or followers
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Be mindful of who you
interact with and share personal information with online.
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Users are encouraged to
keep themselves safe from harmful content by blocking keywords, topics, or
specific creators.
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Make sure to
communicate with higher authorities in cases of cyber-bullying, predatory cases
and an unsafe environment in general.
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Have a generally
detached perception of algorithmic feeds and keep social media separate from
real life.
Awareness of these influences allows
individuals to engage with social media more consciously, without letting it
define their self-worth or sense of reality.
Prekshya Katara